From the research
Why would I need this?
Positive support from trusted peers during the body's three-month natural healing period can significantly reduce the likelihood and severity of PTSD after sexual assault.
Most natural recovery from post-assault PTSD symptoms happens inside the first three months, and the first person told is usually a friend. What that friend says and does, starting in the first 72 hours, shapes what comes next. This app is what the friend needs to have on hand.
Summary of findings from Dworkin et al. (2023), Trauma, Violence, & Abuse, a meta-analysis of 22 samples; Wignall et al. (2019), European Journal of Psychotraumatology; Ozer et al. (2003), Psychological Bulletin; and the Phoenix Australia post-trauma guidelines (2020, updated 2025).
Every system around sexual harm trains its people. Nobody trains the friend.
Title IX investigates the allegation. The crisis center responds to the crisis. But most people who tell anyone tell a friend. That friend is the first responder, not the backup plan.
- No script.
- Caring is not the same as knowing what to do. Most people don't know what to say, or what not to say.
- No warning.
- Most people find out they're unprepared in the middle of it. Usually late at night, usually with someone they love.
#WithYouToo is a safety protocol, like a fire extinguisher. You learn where it is before you need it.
Sexual harm is an injury that needs first aid care before it's a crime demanding interrogation.
Open it, and it asks one question.
“What's happening right now?” Pick the closest answer. A next step is a tap or two away, with nothing to read first.
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Was it sexual harm?
Ten quick questions, for you or a friend. Sexual harm doesn't often look like what we see on TV, so every answer explains something.
Nothing is saved. Skip any screen, go back, or exit at any time.
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The first 72 hours
When someone has just told you: things to say and do, a few at a time. It starts with “Are you safe where you are right now?” because safety comes before the story.
Then it checks in: “Okay, what's next” or “I need help with this.”
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A guide for the moment you're in
Say what's going on, or tap a suggested reply. The guide answers with one next step and words you can copy or send exactly as they are.
The guide is an AI. It draws only on 3Joannes' reviewed material, and it asks your permission before your first message.
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The Red Balloon
A quiet way to say you need someone. You don't have to explain what happened to ask. Pick the words, then copy or send them.
Not ready to send anything? Steady yourself first, in about 60 seconds.
How long do you think they need your support?
Most of us listen for one conversation. Some keep checking in for a week or two. Your friend is still in it a month later.
- First 72 hours Respond Be there. Make it feel safer.
- This first week Assist Help without taking over.
- The first month Inform Make sense of what's going on.
- Month two Show Up Keep showing up.
- Month three Empower Put choice back in their hands.
The first three months are the natural recovery period, and it's when your support matters most. That's why the app gives you a 90-Day Support Plan: how to help, one day at a time.
The clock starts when someone tells you, not when the harm happened.
You already have a way of showing up.
Seven questions, about a minute, no wrong answers. The first 72 hours are the same for everyone. After that, the guidance follows your Support Superpower, so you can help without burning out.
Dependable · Practical · Unshakeable
You're the steady friend everyone relies on when things fall apart. While others are posting about the drama, you're already at their door with snacks and a plan.
Your superpower: creating safety through practical support and unwavering reliability.
Fierce · Protective · Unapologetic
You're a fierce protector, ready to fight for what's right. When you see unfairness, you're the first to speak up and take action. You'll walk into the hard stuff with your people.
Your superpower: fearless advocacy. Navigating systems, making calls, standing up to anyone who disrespects your people.
Validating · Genuine · Empathetic
You're the empathetic friend who creates emotional safety. Your texts always include “how are you REALLY?” and you mean it. You're the friend people trust with their unfiltered truth.
Your superpower: unconditional empathy. Sitting with difficult feelings without trying to fix or minimize them.
Analytical · Resourceful · Perceptive
You're the organized friend who brings clarity to chaos. You help your friend do the research, create a game plan, sort out tasks, and find the right resources.
Your superpower: strategic problem-solving. Breaking overwhelming situations into manageable pieces.
Uplifting · Spontaneous · Vibrant
You know how to lift your friend's spirits with perfectly timed humor, encouragement, and fun distractions. You don't dismiss the hard stuff, but you remind friends it won't always feel this way.
Your superpower: boosting morale and inspiring hope. Reminding people that joy is still possible.
This is your natural first move, not your limit. Find yours in the app
No account. No sign-in. Nothing to find.
You may be opening this on a hard night, on a phone someone else can pick up. It's built for that.
Read the privacy policy- It stays on your phone
- Your answers, your plan and your conversation history are saved on your device only. The questions, the plan, the Red Balloon and the resources work without sending anything anywhere.
- A first initial, never a name
- The app never asks who you are or who you're supporting. Where a name would go, it takes one letter.
- The guide asks first
- The guide is an AI, so what you write to it has to leave your phone to be answered. Before your first message it shows exactly what is sent and who receives it. You can say not now.
- Not a hotline
- #WithYouToo doesn't replace emergency services or professional care. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 911.
From advocates and educators
“3Joannes is empowering individuals with an essential life skill that's often overlooked but absolutely crucial for modern support and empathy.”
“Knowing my support style means I can show up confidently for the people I love instead of being afraid to show up at all.”
“This tool will be revolutionary in normalizing support and care before an incident has even taken place.”
Bring it to your campus.
For Greek life, student leadership groups, teams, parent groups and first-year programs. Start a pilot for the students in your community.
You're not the backup plan.
Most people who tell anyone tell a friend. Be the one who knows what to do.
